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Tips for getting rid of friends on ...
Life can be very weird some times; especially virtual life.
The last time you removed someone from your Facebook contacts, you got mad emails in your inbox. The person valued your friendship so much and you never got the message.
It was someone you became friends with some time ago. You didn’t know that person. It was a friend of a friend of yours whom you trust a lot and you thought it would be OK to add in your contacts. She looked like a nice, neat person, with a cute profile picture, a descent bio and proper comments from her friends. So you clicked on the ‘confirm friend request’ button with a huge smile on your face because you were instantly increasing your cluster of friends. What you didn’t know then though, was that, several months later, you would be eager to get rid of this person.
Facebook friendships can be a really complicated issue, regardless if you consider removing someone you don’t even know or a real friend. It is a matter of how much you value a friend; literally. Some time ago, you got pissed off on the ‘Whopper Sacrifice’ campaign that offered you a free Angry Whopper for every ten friends you deleted on Facebook. The campaign literally valued each friend at $0.37. In the beginning, you thought it was unfair to sacrifice your friends over a Whopper. But, then you found it as a good excuse to get rid of people you didn’t really have any contact with and who were pretty much meaningless to you. Let alone, you would save money on a Whopper. So, in effect, the cost – benefit relationship of your Facebook friends was valued at the price of a Burger King Whopper.
Removing someone you don’t even know from your contact list shouldn’t be much of a problem. You don’t know the person; you have never met; so you cannot really tell who this person is. You know all that is reflected on a profile page of a social networking website, on a profile picture you know it is carefully chosen and maybe re-touched, and on personal information that is thoroughly disclosed to attract. Trying to be attractive is not necessarily a bad thing. All of us need to be liked and if we have qualities that make us attractive, we use them in the most prominent way. But, if in the process, some people annoy you, harass you, and give you hard time, a simple click on ‘remove friend’ button will do the job. Chances are they won’t even notice they have been removed because they do that with almost all their contacts. It’s a way of living. But, if you are afraid they will get mad, then, you can just alter your privacy settings so that they cannot find you on Facebook anymore. Go to Settings, Privacy Settings, and put the person’s name in the Block List. Alternatively, go to Settings, Privacy Settings, Search and in Search Visibility choose Friends of Friends. Instead of thinking you deleted them they will think you left Facebook.
Things are quite more complicated when it comes to removing someone you are personally involved with. Although a real friendship is far more valued in real life than on Facebook interface, still people get offended if you remove them from your Facebook account. Even if you meet someone for a coffee once a week, still it is almost required that you have this person in your Facebook friends. The impact of social networking on our brain and how Facebook affects our behavior is often unexplainable, especially when it comes to value people and friendships.
Before deleting friends, you can send warnings. Facebook has a bunch of built-in applications that work for better or worse. If you love someone you can send flowers, teddy bears, hearts, drinks, whatever comes in mind. If you hate someone, you can send from devil’s eyes to e-cards asking your keys back or showing the sign of a dead-end relationship. Facebook can pass the message in many ways, and there is no doubt that you have used Facebook apps for teasing people or expressing your warm feelings and concern before. So, even if some friends are really tiring you up with constant status updates and stupid applications, you don’t necessarily have to delete them. You can hide their status updates; you can send them an email asking them to stop including you in these apps; you can even argue with them because you are close enough with them to do so. Ultimately, you can click on the ‘remove friend’ button. But, from that point onwards, you won’t care that much anymore because the feel of your relationship would have probably changed.
Like it happens in real life, choosing who you will be friends with entails a risk. There have been cases of real friendships that ended up in real mess and cases of cyber friendships that turned into life-time relationships. We cannot really know who we shoot for, but we should know by whom we’ve been shot. Sometimes, an innocent cyber friend request from an unknown person can be the beginning of a real nightmare.
I work as a financial and investment advisor but my passion is writing, music and photography. Writing mostly about finance, business and music, being an amateur photographer and a professional dj, I am inspired from life. Being a strong advocate of simplicity in life, I love my family, my partner and all the people that have stood by me with or without knowing. And I hope that someday, human nature will cease to be greedy and demanding realizing that the more we have the more we want and the more we satisfy our needs the more needs we create. And this is so needless after all. Article Source:http://www.articlesbase.com/internet-articles/tips-for-getting-rid-of-friends-on-facebook-without-making-them-mad-1040925.html